As a stay-at-home mom, I’ve found myself watching more court TV and Dr. Phil than ever before. I get about 1.5-2 hours of this in the afternoon while Emery is resting…on a good day! As I’ve watched these shows I’ve noticed some really disturbing trends in our society. Here are some of my thoughts…
1. Proverbs 14:1 says “A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” This doesn’t talk about physically building a house…but about the emotional, spiritual, relational building of a home. The wise woman invests into her home in all of these ways. She spends time with her husband and her children. She is a good listener. She is a good problem solver. She takes pride in her work. A foolish woman spends her time whining, complaining, and yelling at her children and husband. She tears down her husband by pointing out his every flaw. She tears down her children by not loving them…or not disciplining them. She runs to another man to help solve her problems. She’s turned away from common sense and has decided that an emotional affair is of no consequence to her or her family. There are so many women that I’ve seen who are incredible fools in their marriages. I’ve seen a lot of men doing the same thing. People in our culture are so deprived of “family.” They have no clue what they’re doing. It is so disturbing to me!
2. People always have been, and always will be, full of excuses. They will blame everyone but themselves for the problems going on in their lives. They don’t see how they may not have control over every single circumstance in their lives, but they do have control of their responses. People need to start taking responsibility for their own actions and for their own futures. I don’t care if you’ve grown up in poverty or if you’ve grown up with every opportunity at your finger tips. You may have had an unfortunate up-bringing, but it is your responsibility to take matters into your own hands. You can use these circumstances to improve yourself and learn from them, OR you can use them as a crutch and allow those circumstances to turn you into a terrible person.
3. Your inability to say “no” is not necessarily an addiction. Some people believe that their “addiction” to drugs, alcohol, food, sex…etc…is an excuse for all of their behaviors. They say, “I can’t help it.” That’s a load, to me. You can help it. You can go get help. There are all kinds of facilities all over the country for people with all kinds of addictions. You may say, “I have an addiction to the adrenaline rush I get while torturing animals…” but that doesn’t make it right. If you are living with an addiction, then you are a risk to yourself and to others. Therefore, it is your responsibility to get help. It is not the responsibility of everyone else to find the help for you. The rest of the planet lives under principles of “survival of the fittest.” Because we are humans we have compassion. Go and use that compassion to better yourself instead of feeding off of your friends and families emotionally, mentally, and financially.
4. People have developed an inability (or disinterest) to discern right from wrong. We are so worried about offending someone that we’re no longer willing to say, “that is wrong.” We would rather put ourselves and others at risk than to stand up for what is right.
It makes me sad to see the direction that our society is going. We’ve become more selfish, spent more money (that we don’t have), cared less for others, and fed off of the government, friends, family…anyone who will keep giving. Of course, there are those who are not like this. In general, this is what I’m seeing. My prayer is that, as a mother, I can teach my sons to be discerning, responsible, compassionate, loving, faithful, loyal, and honest. I want my kids to be full of life and joy…and to bring joy to others as well.